The best way to do this is via my wonderful assistant, Mary. Although she might be the one to respond to your message, she makes sure I see everything that’s sent to me.
Mary is also the person to get in touch with if you—sorry this sounds really presumptuous, as if people are banging on my virtual door, clamouring for my attention—but, like, if you want me to write you something, or to interview me or have me on your podcast or whatever. Just be aware that I don’t do panels or multi-author events because I strongly feel that those kinds of opportunities could be used to uplift less privileged writers. Frankly, if there’s one thing the world doesn’t need right now, it’s more white men with opinions.
You can email her here: mary(at)quicunquevult(dot)com.
A few quick things before reaching out:
- If there’s something in particular you’d like me to answer, I’ll always do my best, but I do recommend checking out my FAQs because there’s a tonne of information available there.
- I really wish this went without saying, but when you write to me, especially if you’re asking me to do something or participate in something, could you please get my name right and use the correct pronouns? It’s just this should be standard practice for dealing with, well, all humans everywhere? But especially LGBTQ+ authors for whom pronouns may well be significant.
- And I really wish this went without saying too, but please do remember that Mary both exists and should be treated with courtesy. It gets incredibly weird incredibly quickly if we’re emailing back and forth, trying to arrange something, and Mary is the one handling the logistics, yet you keep addressing me instead like she’s a fraudulent Victorian occultist summoning my spirit from the netherworld.
- Finally, I’m really sorry but neither Mary nor I currently have the time to be anyone’s penpal. We’re incredibly touched you like us enough to want to maintain a long-term correspondence but it’s just not possible. We hope you understand.
While I can’t really get into long-term exchanges, I’m always happy to be contacted. I sincerely love hearing from readers and I’m grateful that you took the time to reach out to me.
While I wouldn’t recommend myself as a source of advice for anything, because I genuinely don’t know what I’m doing, if you’re a writer (published or otherwise) I am always happy to help if/when I can. I’m afraid I can’t look at any unpublished material (because that’s incredibly complicated for about a million different reasons) but I do understand that publishing is a complex industry, especially if you’re marginalised, so I’m always willing to share my experiences or offer what insight I can. Do, of course, be aware that I’m just one person, with just one perspective, and not any sort of authority, but don’t hesitate to reach out if you feel my thoughts would be useful to you.
What I can’t do however, is directly introduce you to industry professionals, like agents, editors or other authors, and I’m not personally comfortable doing any kind of authenticity reading for any aspects of my identity.
Finally, I’m afraid I don’t feel it’s appropriate for me to give blurbs. Romance is an incredibly complicated and intersectional genre, and I’m concerned that giving blurbs would look like an attempt on my part to claim authority over it—essentially that I was using my privilege to make statements about which books were worthy.